Do you have the marriage you really want? We do. Diane and I have been married for almost half a century! That sounds like a lot, right? But what you have heard is true: it really does go by faster than you think. And most of the time, for most of those years, our marriage has brought us deep satisfaction. Perfect? No. Wonderful? Yes!
It could have been different. Diane and I could be like two prisoners serving a life sentence in a cold, dark jail. Prisoners have two choices. They can resign themselves to their captivity and make the most of it. Or, they can look for ways to escape. Pretty obvious, isn’t it, that jail is not the place you want to be.
I am not writing as a prisoner. I am writing as a man who would not escape even if he could escape. We love each other, my wife and I, and we really enjoy our marriage. We hope you can say the same. If not, we can help.
A Little Background
Over the years here we have talked to thousands of people about marriage. We have counseled hundreds. Young couples preparing for marriage; couples just starting out on their marriages; even couples married for many years. We see them all. We know their joys and disappointments.
Some stories are wonderful, and some just make you cry. But most of the couples we meet are somewhere in between the best and the worst. Maybe that is how you would describe your marriage, too.
Great marriages are the result of three important factors: desire, design, and determination. Desire means that you really want a good marriage. Everybody does. Design means that you have some healthy ideas about what a good marriage looks like. Some people do. Determination means that you are willing to work through all the obstacles to have a satisfying marriage. A lot of people lose their determination.
Usually two out of three isn’t too bad. And if you were a baseball player, one hit out of every three chances would make you a star. But not in marriage. A successful marriage requires all three.
Growing A Great Marriage can help you develop and focus these three vital qualities. A good marriage can become great, and even a really bad marriage can be restored.